“It’s never too late – never too late to start over, never too late to be happy.” – Jane Fonda
“It is never too late to become what you might have been.” – George Eliot
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Today marks Part 2 of the series I am calling The “Needs” Trilogy. Basically, it is a wake-up call for me (and those in the same boat with me). I have spent a good part of my life in states of anxiety, fear, anger, and worry. And I have come to realize that every minute of these states has been a grand waste of time. So, I created this little trilogy as a way to hopefully assist us in what to do with the now and the future.
In Part 1, we looked at one of our most important needs – the love of, and belonging to, others. We explored that it a vital component to being able to reach of state of peace and happiness with our lives. Today, in this Part 2, I want to look at another important component on this theme – timing. I want to do this by looking at the three quotes at the top of this post.
The first quote is from Benjamin Franklin. While there is much truth in it, it is a kind of negative quote – and, to me, written with a fatalistic slant. I think often times, a lot of folks look at Franklin’s quote as an undeniable truth and, therefore, at some point, simply feel it’s too late to change their lives, and then simply give up. (For years, I walked this path.) But, my friends, when Franklin speaks of the “tragedy” as he calls it, I think he would also believe the tragedy only lies in the “giving up” part. I believe the tragedy Franklin speaks of surely could happen. But, I believe Franklin would agree that the tragedy also is an avoidable one. The tragedy only manifests itself upon our own decision to give up and ensure its truth.
Let’s look at the next quote. At first glance, it appears to say the exact opposite. But I think not. I think it is a truth to the extent we make it happen. Like the Franklin quote before it, the Fonda quote puts the responsibility squarely on our shoulders. Clearly, we can start over at any time we want. Clearly we can be happy any time. The choice is ours – and we must decide to do so or our decision will be made for us and the Franklin quote will result. But remember, as long as we are still alive, we have the choice to change! We do not have to sit back and accept tragedy!
Finally, let’s look at the last quote – my favorite. It states that not only can we change our minds, but that we can even reach whatever goals we have for ourselves. With determination, mindfulness, and effort, we can become that person we always felt we were meant to become. Folks, I believe this with all my heart. To repeat, IT IS NEVER TOO LATE TO BECOME THE PERSON WE WISH TO BE!
My friends, Part 2 is a warning. Like the “two-minute warning” in pro football, please accept today’s post as your own two-minute warning. Today, it’s not too late to change your mind for good. Today, it’s not too late to cultivate meaningful relationships. As long as you can read this, it’s not too late. But, just like in football, we all will reach a crucial time – a two-minute warning of sorts – where if we do not get about the business of change, the Franklin quote will unfortunately become a truth in our lives. There will come a day when it will be too late. Please, don’t let that happen. Please, decide right now to change – do it for your loved ones, for your community, and, of equal importance, do it for yourself.
Okay, so in Part 1, we looked at a crucial need for growth and happiness – love of, and belonging to, others. In today’s Part 2, we have noted that, while not too late to change, there is no time like the present and it is certainly in our best interest to change as soon as possible – before it becomes too late. In Part 3, we will explore exactly what to do to bring about this change. Again, I hope you will join me here Friday – it’s maybe the most important lesson of all!
Reg L. Carver